The night before Christmas eve and ready for an incredibly busy day tomorrow morning. Wake up about 8 am and start to prepare the tortilla dough for 12 or 13 people, making homemade tortillas from flour and chorizo and potatoes, eggs and sausage along with the warm torts to make it all complete and yummy for our guests. We are having the nieces and nephews over in the morning to celebrate Christmas eve with a nice home cooked breakfast by yours truly for our family and friends! We were originally planning a breakfast out at a local breakfast house but was hired as a replacement for said restaurant and agreed to do so . So after a day of short work today, went and bought a few things as well as Terria doing the main shopping for the breakfast and the subsequent Christmas dinner the following day at April and Tim's house.
The morning will have me trying to time out a menu of Homemade flour tortillas which are relatively easy to make but very timely, so I must reach for my best timing implementations to make sure that I can have 4 pans going at once to make sausage, potatoes, and chorizo all timed properly and not burn anything along the way all while rolling our tortillas and cooking them and sealing the heat in a plate and towel. I need to make 25-30 tortillas as we are scheduled to have 12-13 folks for food, which means 4 lbs of Chorizo, 5 lbs of potatoes, 3 large onions and 4 lbs of sausage along with at least 25 eggs used for some sort of concoction of chorizo and potatoes and sausage, a nice mix and blend of breakfast foods with my own special twist on each, no recipes, no measuring just good food made from scratch and don't know how much of anything but ends up just right based on feel and smells of it all. Enjoy cooking food, even simple foods or more complex foods regardless it's nice when people ask me to cook whatever it is that they like of my cooking, whether it be tortillas, or ranchera meat, Chocolate cakes or strawberry muffins I love the art of culinary toils as they give me a sense of tension release and relaxation.So I do look forward to the morning meal and know i Will be rushing and pushing to get it all ready for the group in the morning but will get it done.
After the meal and the company are gone, the cleanup and revamping start up, we also have the following day to ready for Christmas dinner with April and Tim , we are making mashed potatoes, Terria and Brandon are making the rolls and the bread from scratch, a turkey and a few types of cookies for the dessert spread on Christmas day,I will make Brandon's Birthday cake of Chocolate Ganache cake and also make some ganache filled vanilla shortbread cookies to add to the dessert tray, after the baking is done tomorrow night we venture off to an 11 pm Christmas mass with Brandon and Terria at a church in Ventura to cap off the Christmas eve night. Then Christmas day and a dual treat of Christmas and the birth of my oldest son Brandon's birthday celebration to be shared with Jesus each and every year. The sense of oddity of not having Ty and Braz here this year is a bit strange to us all but we will do the best we can without them this year and hope that the following year will bring us all together as a family unit again. So ready for the holidays and ready to spend time with family and meet up with friends, enjoying my 11 days off from work and will try to get in some Golf and a few rounds of golf and hitting balls somewhere.So off to bed I go, very tired and have so much to do the next 2 days.... Gooooood Night!
Friday, December 23, 2011
Thursday, December 22, 2011
Working Holidays and Perpetual Growth
With Christmas day coming upon us real soon I can only look back and wonder where the hell the year went. I cannot believe another year is nearly over and we embark upon another 365 days of come what may and dealing with it all with reckless abandon! Well not so much reckless as it is without worry and despair, Well without worry until our Boys come home and Braz is safely back from war and Ty is safely back from whatever the hell it is he is doing is Missouri??? Who knows what tomorrow will bring but we've been through it all before and are well prepared to deal with the days ahead. Life and living seemingly get better everyday and each day is a moment in time that allows us to enjoy and prosper in life's funny and at times cruel twists of uncertainty. Sometimes reflection on days gone by help me understand that there are solutions to the uncertainties that we create and always a solution to whatever comes up. In dealing with the boys and their life's cruel lessons bestowed upon their young lives, i can say that the issues they deal with as young men are things that we deal with everyday ,in talking to Terria about this very thing we see the boys as ill prepared and unable at times to deal with the things that life has put in their way, partly due to their age and lack of life experiences. Well as time goes on we can only hope that living is learning and that they learn and improve upon their mistakes and don't repeat them as they grow older. I know that my mistakes throughout my life have all been addressed and dealt with but didn't all happen at once, we learn from our mistakes and through our life experiences allow us to grow and learn from those mistakes, if we don't learn from them we go backwards and continue to doom ourselves and our futures by repeating our unsavory history! Growth and more growth in all areas seem to be the elixir that heals and mends all wounds.
Meanwhile back at my Christmas rush we rush and rush to get the last second details all handled in a meaningful way. Terria will shop tomorrow and get all of the food and help me by doing so and the baking of cookies, Cake and Pies will start here Friday and Saturday. Sunday Christmas day we will make an additional Turkey to add to the Turkey that April is making. We also were tasked to make the Yeast rolls and Bread, Mashed potatoes and the aforementioned Turkey! Terria and Brandon will be on Bread duties and got Pies and cookies, Brandon's traditional Chocolate ganache cake will be my yearly pleasure and duty to make as good as ever.I t is a great time of the year to gather as a family to share the strength and love that we have all shared throughout the years and for remembering our lost loved ones and reflect on those memories of days gone by.I can only hope that the memories that we have given our kids and close family members can be shared long after we are gone and that the happiness never goes away.
Trying to celebrate the reason for the season of the holidays and remember the day nearly 26 years ago that my oldest son Brandon was born, Christmas night at 3:48 pm after being up all night waiting for his arrival on Christmas eve, he came and the world that I knew was forever changed and things would be different from here on. Christmas has many reasons for celebration for me and the family , this year will be a different Christmas without Braz and Ty , feeling a little weird about that since being the first Christmas in 14 years without the boys in the room on Christmas morning, but growing up at times means growing apart by distance in this case. So rushing and scurry we head to Sunday with tired eyes and bodies in preparation of cooking, shopping and being with family ,eating too much, workouts put on hold for a day or two and hitting hard the day after. We move along and prepare for the new year with much optimism and awareness of all the things that the man upstairs has shared with us, so very thankful for putting us all where we should be and working towards the common goal and thread of life, love and laughter with my amazing family, special thanks as always to Terria and the boys, April and Tim, Susan and Richard and yes even my mom for leaving me alone...lol!!!!!Life is great and this time of the year allows us to outwardly show the love that we receive by giving it all back! So very thankful for being alive and well and living the dream! Good night and Good Times!
Meanwhile back at my Christmas rush we rush and rush to get the last second details all handled in a meaningful way. Terria will shop tomorrow and get all of the food and help me by doing so and the baking of cookies, Cake and Pies will start here Friday and Saturday. Sunday Christmas day we will make an additional Turkey to add to the Turkey that April is making. We also were tasked to make the Yeast rolls and Bread, Mashed potatoes and the aforementioned Turkey! Terria and Brandon will be on Bread duties and got Pies and cookies, Brandon's traditional Chocolate ganache cake will be my yearly pleasure and duty to make as good as ever.I t is a great time of the year to gather as a family to share the strength and love that we have all shared throughout the years and for remembering our lost loved ones and reflect on those memories of days gone by.I can only hope that the memories that we have given our kids and close family members can be shared long after we are gone and that the happiness never goes away.
Trying to celebrate the reason for the season of the holidays and remember the day nearly 26 years ago that my oldest son Brandon was born, Christmas night at 3:48 pm after being up all night waiting for his arrival on Christmas eve, he came and the world that I knew was forever changed and things would be different from here on. Christmas has many reasons for celebration for me and the family , this year will be a different Christmas without Braz and Ty , feeling a little weird about that since being the first Christmas in 14 years without the boys in the room on Christmas morning, but growing up at times means growing apart by distance in this case. So rushing and scurry we head to Sunday with tired eyes and bodies in preparation of cooking, shopping and being with family ,eating too much, workouts put on hold for a day or two and hitting hard the day after. We move along and prepare for the new year with much optimism and awareness of all the things that the man upstairs has shared with us, so very thankful for putting us all where we should be and working towards the common goal and thread of life, love and laughter with my amazing family, special thanks as always to Terria and the boys, April and Tim, Susan and Richard and yes even my mom for leaving me alone...lol!!!!!Life is great and this time of the year allows us to outwardly show the love that we receive by giving it all back! So very thankful for being alive and well and living the dream! Good night and Good Times!
Monday, December 19, 2011
Phoenix Cardinals Terria Birthday weekend
Many many thanks to Tim and April for making Terria's birthday weekend a great time for all of us. Celebrating her birthday 2 weeks later with their gift of a great Overtime football game and a nice stay in Scottsdale, added to the breakfasts and dinners we were treated well by big sister and And Tim. Actually went shopping at a Walmart on Saturday, Walmart, just not done in my realm of things but we did and had fun people watching. Yes TErria got to see her man Larry Fitzgerald and he played great as usual, made some big catches, none bigger than the 35 yard catch setting up the final kick in overtime. The 7 hour drive home went relatively quick and had no issues other than the constant piss stops for sister. Again, thanks for the great weekend all and look forward to the next group trip, so many laughs and enjoyed the game and being with the people I love. Pictured below, April, Terria in Jersey, and Tim in the Santa Hat!!!!
Thursday, December 15, 2011
The Boy Brigade
The joys of youth and the trials of being young all fall into the same kettle of goodness and badness. Dealing with the boys and their issues over the past 2 years has been an eye opener to me and Terria. Wanting to grow up so damn fast and get out and on their own to play grown up. Now that the realities of their decisions have hit home and after sifting their their self induced rubble of youthful ignorance they might think to ponder about this adult thing a bit longer and reflect upon their decisions to grow up much too quickly. As adults and as parents we see and do things that are both right and wrong and act accordingly in fixing them and making them right, or prospering and enjoying the good things that come our way. But as a parent we see the mistakes being made, compounded upon by the inability to fix them and a rush for a quick fix that exponentially makes it even worse. The youthful inability to draw upon any life experience and act quickly to remedy a situation when they know not where the problem lye's. Yeah we have had our fill with Braz and Ty and sometimes Brandon with the decision making process and the overall perception that these things work themselves out...they don't!!!!
Braz is in a bad place right now, mom and dad are in a bad place right now as a result of the thoughts and worry of our boy in war zones dealing with the crap of a young wife who chooses not to keep her legs closed and her mouth without another mans cocks inside them both. Braz being the eternal fool always takes her back and in no position to act upon it if he wanted to. So he puts his tail between his legs and hopes she changes but the issues of her childhood that went unattended will not allow her to fix her shit, just more of the same and he takes over payments for the bullshit that ensues. Well he may have hit a low point and is now done with this roller coaster ride of infidelity and distrust, he is officially done with her and the fact that she is in trouble with her command for being where she shouldn't have been with another married man will only make things worse for her. Sadly enough we loved her as our own but she cannot continue to treat our boy like this and he cannot continue to allow this to happen to himself. He has come to the realization that he cannot live like this anymore, regardless of his love for her, she does not love herself or him for that matter enough to get help and stop this runaway train wreck on a crash course collision. Being young and somewhat ignorant of what expectations are and should be , they tolerate the bullshit because doing things for the first time doesn't allow you the foresight to know there is another way to do things, accepting the bullshit and know the difference is fine line with the young and the socially dumb today, yes he is our son and yes we love him to death but we cannot walk him through his entire life , especially when our advise has gone on deaf ears all these years, they know everything right? except that they know nothing and don't know that they don't know, double ignorance is a bitch. We will be supportive of Braz and help him an way we can, the time will come when he can reflect upon this and use this as a piece of knowledge that will help his decisions for the next time and to see the red flags long before they have been waved. Love you son !!!!!
Then we climb atop Mt. Ttyrannosaurus Narcissistic knucklehead where everything is everybody else's fault and nobody is a good a she is. The boy has removed himself from the game of reality and the game of life and now resides in the land of the missing tooth's. Chillicothe Fucking Missouri home of the dumbfuck white trailer trash mother fuckers. Goddammit already , meet up with a 21 year old girl when you are 17 , get some amazing blow job and fall in love when the world was yours and you gave it away for that. Had a job that would have led to bigger and better things as did she , but chose to move back to her hometown where she had home team advantage and took every bit of advantage of it as she does today. What is it with the boys and their lacking the inner skills to make a good decision about woman? Ty has Narcissistic disorder and thinks the world owes him everything and all that he has done wrong is our fault and all he has done right is his own brilliance! After he moved to Missouri he has threatened to come back at least 5 times as they break up every week and always make up and get back together only to repeat the same cycle. His girl apparently has issues wit Terria and for some reason chooses to shot herself in the foot in fucking with the wrong woman on this planet. Terria when pregnant had her boys and went back to work in days after doing so, worked til the last couple of days before taking off from work as a school teacher, as an aside, Ty's Girlfriend is pregnant and due in Februaryry and has not worked in months and won't ever work again I'm sure, following in Mom's footsteps of 6 kids with 4 dads Ty will be one of many daddies to her many kids, thanksgiving dinners will be quite uncomfortable for the Ty man lmmfao! I can only say that Ty would better serve himself by removing himself from the set of Deliverance and come home and start his life all over again,I'd even be willing to raise his child with Terria and give that baby what she won't be getting from them...trust me on this! So I can only say how sad I am to see Ty go down this path he had so much potential to do more for himself, so much drive and personality to go anywhere he wanted to , now he's stuck with the probabilities of a military life and a Cooter for a wife/girlfriend. his choices ,his dilemma but that child he is having has no say in this. I feel bad for Terria and I know her boys were given the proper examples by us on a daily basis by showing the example of raising the bar and having expectations and constantly saying NO to them and no being their best friend, but being a real parent to them all!
Our oldest boy Brandon has taken a while to get jump started and doing his school and part time work to pay fr his car, the relationship he is in seems to be more of a burden to him than a good thing and I assume that it will end shortly after the holiday season. He has some issues with the relationships and assume that his biological so called mother has something to do with it as she left his life when he was only 7-8 years to be with another man. He went through therapy and i feel still carries some residuals effects in the way of relationships and dealing with the rigors of maintaining and making one grow in a positive manner. he generally runs for the hills before he tries to set his foot in the ground and attempt to work at it. He loves his distance and getting too close to him is a bad thing for him, seems to be a mother leaving issue to me but I am not the trained professional and I wish he would go see Michael and address the issues he still carries. He is a great son and a bit of an introvert , he loves to write and read and is a bit nerdy when it comes to the intellectualal side of his own brilliance. I know he will find his way and his mother Staying out of his life has been as positive as it has been a negative. Terria has been an amazing influence with her love and guidance as a step mom, or his MOM as it really should read, his biological mom lost that right when she walked out of his life. So Brandon and I share the passions for music, Baseball, Comedy and Cooking, i love all of my boys and wish we could go back in time to do it all over again! Life is funny and an ongoing docudrama of goodness, Bad, fun, sadness ,intrigue and most of all ...Learning! To stop learning is to start dying!!!!
Braz is in a bad place right now, mom and dad are in a bad place right now as a result of the thoughts and worry of our boy in war zones dealing with the crap of a young wife who chooses not to keep her legs closed and her mouth without another mans cocks inside them both. Braz being the eternal fool always takes her back and in no position to act upon it if he wanted to. So he puts his tail between his legs and hopes she changes but the issues of her childhood that went unattended will not allow her to fix her shit, just more of the same and he takes over payments for the bullshit that ensues. Well he may have hit a low point and is now done with this roller coaster ride of infidelity and distrust, he is officially done with her and the fact that she is in trouble with her command for being where she shouldn't have been with another married man will only make things worse for her. Sadly enough we loved her as our own but she cannot continue to treat our boy like this and he cannot continue to allow this to happen to himself. He has come to the realization that he cannot live like this anymore, regardless of his love for her, she does not love herself or him for that matter enough to get help and stop this runaway train wreck on a crash course collision. Being young and somewhat ignorant of what expectations are and should be , they tolerate the bullshit because doing things for the first time doesn't allow you the foresight to know there is another way to do things, accepting the bullshit and know the difference is fine line with the young and the socially dumb today, yes he is our son and yes we love him to death but we cannot walk him through his entire life , especially when our advise has gone on deaf ears all these years, they know everything right? except that they know nothing and don't know that they don't know, double ignorance is a bitch. We will be supportive of Braz and help him an way we can, the time will come when he can reflect upon this and use this as a piece of knowledge that will help his decisions for the next time and to see the red flags long before they have been waved. Love you son !!!!!
Then we climb atop Mt. Ttyrannosaurus Narcissistic knucklehead where everything is everybody else's fault and nobody is a good a she is. The boy has removed himself from the game of reality and the game of life and now resides in the land of the missing tooth's. Chillicothe Fucking Missouri home of the dumbfuck white trailer trash mother fuckers. Goddammit already , meet up with a 21 year old girl when you are 17 , get some amazing blow job and fall in love when the world was yours and you gave it away for that. Had a job that would have led to bigger and better things as did she , but chose to move back to her hometown where she had home team advantage and took every bit of advantage of it as she does today. What is it with the boys and their lacking the inner skills to make a good decision about woman? Ty has Narcissistic disorder and thinks the world owes him everything and all that he has done wrong is our fault and all he has done right is his own brilliance! After he moved to Missouri he has threatened to come back at least 5 times as they break up every week and always make up and get back together only to repeat the same cycle. His girl apparently has issues wit Terria and for some reason chooses to shot herself in the foot in fucking with the wrong woman on this planet. Terria when pregnant had her boys and went back to work in days after doing so, worked til the last couple of days before taking off from work as a school teacher, as an aside, Ty's Girlfriend is pregnant and due in Februaryry and has not worked in months and won't ever work again I'm sure, following in Mom's footsteps of 6 kids with 4 dads Ty will be one of many daddies to her many kids, thanksgiving dinners will be quite uncomfortable for the Ty man lmmfao! I can only say that Ty would better serve himself by removing himself from the set of Deliverance and come home and start his life all over again,I'd even be willing to raise his child with Terria and give that baby what she won't be getting from them...trust me on this! So I can only say how sad I am to see Ty go down this path he had so much potential to do more for himself, so much drive and personality to go anywhere he wanted to , now he's stuck with the probabilities of a military life and a Cooter for a wife/girlfriend. his choices ,his dilemma but that child he is having has no say in this. I feel bad for Terria and I know her boys were given the proper examples by us on a daily basis by showing the example of raising the bar and having expectations and constantly saying NO to them and no being their best friend, but being a real parent to them all!
Our oldest boy Brandon has taken a while to get jump started and doing his school and part time work to pay fr his car, the relationship he is in seems to be more of a burden to him than a good thing and I assume that it will end shortly after the holiday season. He has some issues with the relationships and assume that his biological so called mother has something to do with it as she left his life when he was only 7-8 years to be with another man. He went through therapy and i feel still carries some residuals effects in the way of relationships and dealing with the rigors of maintaining and making one grow in a positive manner. he generally runs for the hills before he tries to set his foot in the ground and attempt to work at it. He loves his distance and getting too close to him is a bad thing for him, seems to be a mother leaving issue to me but I am not the trained professional and I wish he would go see Michael and address the issues he still carries. He is a great son and a bit of an introvert , he loves to write and read and is a bit nerdy when it comes to the intellectualal side of his own brilliance. I know he will find his way and his mother Staying out of his life has been as positive as it has been a negative. Terria has been an amazing influence with her love and guidance as a step mom, or his MOM as it really should read, his biological mom lost that right when she walked out of his life. So Brandon and I share the passions for music, Baseball, Comedy and Cooking, i love all of my boys and wish we could go back in time to do it all over again! Life is funny and an ongoing docudrama of goodness, Bad, fun, sadness ,intrigue and most of all ...Learning! To stop learning is to start dying!!!!
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Spiritual Awakening
Every now and then my day gets thrown a curveball, not too often but it happens on occasion. Last night had a truly amazing serious of epiphanies all starting with a day off from work for no other reason than to get some personal business done. Starting with getting to the gym and having an incredible workout, then stopping at Bath and body works to pick up some gift candles for a coworker. After that all transpired I was on my way to Smart and Final to pick up food for the house and some food for the BBQ at work tomorrow for our Christmas luncheon that we decided to have, along with the gift exchange it's an exciting thing for us to do here at work. surprisingly enough I planned the gift exchange and the BBQ for the first time ever, usually one of the office girls handles the honors but not this year , don't know why this year is so much different than others but it is. So the food shopping gets done and the day is starting to move along. I text Terria and give her 6 options at least for dinner, she decides on Enchilada Casserole,spanish rice and beans. So that's what i made for dinner! Did 3 loads of laundry in between and will never take another day off from work again!!! too much work!
Dinner is done we eat and get the place cleaned up a bit, then we start talking about Brandons new found interest in Christianity and the new church he has been attending, citing reasons of Something missing in his life he found some purpose and some meaning to things through this new found spirituality. We asked him many questions about what he has learned and what is the single biggest lesson learned, learning about himself and understanding things that he did not realize existed. So we continued on sharing my interest with him and how Frank Schaeffer helped me understand the meaning of life and how we should approach it and try not to over interpret the bible. Too many people take the bible way too literally and the simple message of the Golden Rule and treating people like you want to be treated resonates in my mind daily. Brandon has realized that through his studies that both he and I do not fall into a certain sect or religion because we are so liberal in our ways of thinking and living our live, going out of our way to try and accept people for their differences and not exclude somebody because they don't agree with our thought processes entirely, there truly is not one church that flies along the same flight pattern that we do, so we read the bible and keep our lives and our treatment of people and loved ones very simple and very fundamentally sound with a emphasis on being Good!
So as we are thumbing through the bible passages of interest and discussing the meanings or lack of understanding of said meaning we all come up with the same conclusion that the Bible is not at all to be taken literally, written by uneducated and sometimes out of touch people there has to be missteps along it's intended path. The night of reflection contained relationships,spirituality and an overall closeness that we all enjoyed !The nights conclusion floored me as I discussed feeling sad that I had lost my bible from High school, my sister Linda gave it to me as a high school graduation gift. i read that bible many times over and cherished it for it's intended purposes of helping my new and exciting meaning in my life, took it with me everywhere and enjoyed the feeling of spirituality , well this Bible was lost somewhere in one of my moves and it contained the Rose from the casket of my deceased father inside as my bookmark. i was upset at looking at it and we talked about this last night. So i go into my bedroom and look in a secondary bible in my room opened it up and found a birthday card from 1976, my 13th birthday card from my father signed by him for my mom too and it hit me, how ironic and powerful was this, a lost piece of my fathers past still held in check in this Bible that i have picked up maybe less than 3 time sin my life, very very strong sense of spirtituality that made the memory of my father that much more special and clear to me. Thanks to terria and Brandon for an incredible evening of thought provoking banter and to the memory of my father who has been sorely missed by his kids, daughter in laws, son in laws and Grandchildren..... And his baby son, ME!
Dinner is done we eat and get the place cleaned up a bit, then we start talking about Brandons new found interest in Christianity and the new church he has been attending, citing reasons of Something missing in his life he found some purpose and some meaning to things through this new found spirituality. We asked him many questions about what he has learned and what is the single biggest lesson learned, learning about himself and understanding things that he did not realize existed. So we continued on sharing my interest with him and how Frank Schaeffer helped me understand the meaning of life and how we should approach it and try not to over interpret the bible. Too many people take the bible way too literally and the simple message of the Golden Rule and treating people like you want to be treated resonates in my mind daily. Brandon has realized that through his studies that both he and I do not fall into a certain sect or religion because we are so liberal in our ways of thinking and living our live, going out of our way to try and accept people for their differences and not exclude somebody because they don't agree with our thought processes entirely, there truly is not one church that flies along the same flight pattern that we do, so we read the bible and keep our lives and our treatment of people and loved ones very simple and very fundamentally sound with a emphasis on being Good!
So as we are thumbing through the bible passages of interest and discussing the meanings or lack of understanding of said meaning we all come up with the same conclusion that the Bible is not at all to be taken literally, written by uneducated and sometimes out of touch people there has to be missteps along it's intended path. The night of reflection contained relationships,spirituality and an overall closeness that we all enjoyed !The nights conclusion floored me as I discussed feeling sad that I had lost my bible from High school, my sister Linda gave it to me as a high school graduation gift. i read that bible many times over and cherished it for it's intended purposes of helping my new and exciting meaning in my life, took it with me everywhere and enjoyed the feeling of spirituality , well this Bible was lost somewhere in one of my moves and it contained the Rose from the casket of my deceased father inside as my bookmark. i was upset at looking at it and we talked about this last night. So i go into my bedroom and look in a secondary bible in my room opened it up and found a birthday card from 1976, my 13th birthday card from my father signed by him for my mom too and it hit me, how ironic and powerful was this, a lost piece of my fathers past still held in check in this Bible that i have picked up maybe less than 3 time sin my life, very very strong sense of spirtituality that made the memory of my father that much more special and clear to me. Thanks to terria and Brandon for an incredible evening of thought provoking banter and to the memory of my father who has been sorely missed by his kids, daughter in laws, son in laws and Grandchildren..... And his baby son, ME!
Sunday, December 11, 2011
Fly By Weekend!
A darn good weekend for sure, not allot of thing went on but a quiet weekend for sure of just enough to keep us above water, mentally and emotionally, all is well! Good to hear from the boys today, they are a well as could be expected under the vast and trying circumstances. Terria and i enjoyed baking and Football today, even had an hour plus at the gym to blow off some steam and sit in the hot tub and relax and melt away the little stress that surrounded my day. It was a great day and we are all ready for the Holidays this year, a little heaviness in missing our boys Ty and Braz but do agree upon the fact that this is the natural progression of watching the kids grow up and leave the nest, all in a days work I spose, or the life of a loving parent, let em go and they will return, on their terms and all grown up!
Watched another great episode of Frank Schaeffers book reading TV from Cambridge online tonight, so much goodness comes from this man and He truly is the voice and mind of good reason in my life. His words and books resonate in my mind and tell me that I need to listen to this voice and hear his words, read his books and absorb this giant nugget of common goodness that most people only aspire to experience. I have been blessed to be surrounded with the family friends and outside influences that have positively helped to reshape in a positive light. So much goodness and the ideas of treating people kindly, with respect and admiration where deemed appropriate. I have a great admiration for Schaeffer and people who are kind, intelligent and non judgemental who treats people as equals and with no prejudice based on whatever differences we have, be it color, religion or sexual preference, we are all capable of being good or bad regardless of those preferences, not because of them, but in spite of those personal nuances which makes us all different. I am truly blessed to have had A person like Schaeffer come into my life and ideology, the goodness I have taken from his teachings are immense, thank you Mr Frank Schaeffer!!!! So with that I will close by thanking Terria and the family for giving me so much goodness and so many good things to enjoy each and every day just by waking up, thanks to God for giving me the wisdom to think and live a good life and the vast intelligence and realistic views to realize that I am a flawed human being , and will make mistakes and have the wherewithal to get my shit straight using the tools and means that are at my disposal on so many fronts. Good Night!
Watched another great episode of Frank Schaeffers book reading TV from Cambridge online tonight, so much goodness comes from this man and He truly is the voice and mind of good reason in my life. His words and books resonate in my mind and tell me that I need to listen to this voice and hear his words, read his books and absorb this giant nugget of common goodness that most people only aspire to experience. I have been blessed to be surrounded with the family friends and outside influences that have positively helped to reshape in a positive light. So much goodness and the ideas of treating people kindly, with respect and admiration where deemed appropriate. I have a great admiration for Schaeffer and people who are kind, intelligent and non judgemental who treats people as equals and with no prejudice based on whatever differences we have, be it color, religion or sexual preference, we are all capable of being good or bad regardless of those preferences, not because of them, but in spite of those personal nuances which makes us all different. I am truly blessed to have had A person like Schaeffer come into my life and ideology, the goodness I have taken from his teachings are immense, thank you Mr Frank Schaeffer!!!! So with that I will close by thanking Terria and the family for giving me so much goodness and so many good things to enjoy each and every day just by waking up, thanks to God for giving me the wisdom to think and live a good life and the vast intelligence and realistic views to realize that I am a flawed human being , and will make mistakes and have the wherewithal to get my shit straight using the tools and means that are at my disposal on so many fronts. Good Night!
Thursday, December 8, 2011
The Holiday Spirit!
This time of year is always a really interesting time for me, the fact that the holidays bring out the best and worst in people always amazes me and I sit back and observe the goings on! From my perch atop Mount reality i can see the people running towards that secret gift and that secret something that holds all of the answers, never mind the faith and spirituality aspect of the holidays just focus on the quick fix " i will knock you over for that Coach purse" approach. Yes, the holidays are a really interesting time for sure, the families are generally the closest and make amends for all of the snubs throughout the year, but that's another piece altogether. December is upon us and another year is getting closer to being over, the year always bring about some sort of change for us, be it diet plans, vacations, gym workouts , something that we change up a bit to make the new year a different and exciting experience. So as we get closer to the XMAS day , and yes I said XMAS instead of Christmas because this is my site and my world so Fuck off if you are offended!
Let's see! where can I start with the ongoing ridiculous traits of people during the holidays, the shopping is always an Olympic effort to get the right things in the right sizes, seems like somebody always gets the offensive"what were they thinking when they bought that gift " snub, you know, giving the over weight man or woman a diet cookbook is always a great way to piss somebody off!!!!! But we dig deeper into this maddening holiday and really seek out the goodness that it is intended to invoke in us all. The giving is a big part of it all, the love and admiration for the goodness we have is the most important thing to me, my life has been such a great ride to date and if I were to die tomorrow i could say I've lived a full life of loving and giving, receiving and spending time with the people that really matter in my life. Being blessed with amazing brother and sisters , my wife and kids and the few friends that I do have show me everyday how blessed we truly have been. I look no further than in my own workspace and see the dysfunction ans sadness of things and possession driven people and the lack of true love that evades their lives. for them i feel bad but realize that happiness is not a given and must be worked for and worked with to maintain. Being in the great place emotionally, spiritually and physically getting to where i need to be we are in a process that never stops unless we allow it to. I look forward to a drama free and joyous holiday season with my family and friends and truly know that there are too many people who do not have what we have and for that i am shaken a bit and can only help to do my part to make somebody Else's life a better place to be, if only a meal, or a conversation, something to let people know that they matter and that bad things don't always happen to bad people, they indeed can and do happen to good people too.
This year is a bit different for us all at the holiday. We are without Braz and Ty who are in Afghanistan and Missouri respectively, Braz at war and Ty in his own private struggles with his own youth and mortality, youth try to grow faster than they are capable and pay the ultimate price, a road laden with speed bumps and cracks in their road which makes for a bumpy ride. Hence they are in their own private wars and must deal with them as they got in to them, on their own terms and time. Heaven forbid they listen to those of us who have been there done that? yeah that would be really stupid of them to take nearly a hundred years of life skills and learn form our previous stupidity, but that would take away from the allure of being young and dumb!!!!! So we stand back and wait for the trains to collide on each front, Brandon is home , school and work and looking for his way and in a positive place in his world. Missing my dad again this Season, been 28 years since we last spend the XMAS together with him, do miss my dad and everytime I go to my sisters house look at the family picture of all of us together for the last time until he passed away some 3 weeks later. Looking forward and not back I have my memories that I hold close, the thoughts and pleasures of the times we spent together and will always hold the good and bad times close to my heart. Living is learning for me , I've learned so much about myself by observing and through therapy, having Terria by my side is the greatest gift I've ever been able to realize, there are things that happen in our lives that remind us of where we are and how we got there. It helps me to appreciate the things that I almost threw away and makes me realize that life is that aforementioned process of forever growing in a positive way , surrounding myself with Positive people and making everyday count. We are so blessed in who we are , what we are and how we continue to grow on a daily basis. Today is another great day as I'm sure tomorrow will be even better! Good times for sure!
Let's see! where can I start with the ongoing ridiculous traits of people during the holidays, the shopping is always an Olympic effort to get the right things in the right sizes, seems like somebody always gets the offensive"what were they thinking when they bought that gift " snub, you know, giving the over weight man or woman a diet cookbook is always a great way to piss somebody off!!!!! But we dig deeper into this maddening holiday and really seek out the goodness that it is intended to invoke in us all. The giving is a big part of it all, the love and admiration for the goodness we have is the most important thing to me, my life has been such a great ride to date and if I were to die tomorrow i could say I've lived a full life of loving and giving, receiving and spending time with the people that really matter in my life. Being blessed with amazing brother and sisters , my wife and kids and the few friends that I do have show me everyday how blessed we truly have been. I look no further than in my own workspace and see the dysfunction ans sadness of things and possession driven people and the lack of true love that evades their lives. for them i feel bad but realize that happiness is not a given and must be worked for and worked with to maintain. Being in the great place emotionally, spiritually and physically getting to where i need to be we are in a process that never stops unless we allow it to. I look forward to a drama free and joyous holiday season with my family and friends and truly know that there are too many people who do not have what we have and for that i am shaken a bit and can only help to do my part to make somebody Else's life a better place to be, if only a meal, or a conversation, something to let people know that they matter and that bad things don't always happen to bad people, they indeed can and do happen to good people too.
This year is a bit different for us all at the holiday. We are without Braz and Ty who are in Afghanistan and Missouri respectively, Braz at war and Ty in his own private struggles with his own youth and mortality, youth try to grow faster than they are capable and pay the ultimate price, a road laden with speed bumps and cracks in their road which makes for a bumpy ride. Hence they are in their own private wars and must deal with them as they got in to them, on their own terms and time. Heaven forbid they listen to those of us who have been there done that? yeah that would be really stupid of them to take nearly a hundred years of life skills and learn form our previous stupidity, but that would take away from the allure of being young and dumb!!!!! So we stand back and wait for the trains to collide on each front, Brandon is home , school and work and looking for his way and in a positive place in his world. Missing my dad again this Season, been 28 years since we last spend the XMAS together with him, do miss my dad and everytime I go to my sisters house look at the family picture of all of us together for the last time until he passed away some 3 weeks later. Looking forward and not back I have my memories that I hold close, the thoughts and pleasures of the times we spent together and will always hold the good and bad times close to my heart. Living is learning for me , I've learned so much about myself by observing and through therapy, having Terria by my side is the greatest gift I've ever been able to realize, there are things that happen in our lives that remind us of where we are and how we got there. It helps me to appreciate the things that I almost threw away and makes me realize that life is that aforementioned process of forever growing in a positive way , surrounding myself with Positive people and making everyday count. We are so blessed in who we are , what we are and how we continue to grow on a daily basis. Today is another great day as I'm sure tomorrow will be even better! Good times for sure!
Wednesday, December 7, 2011
Finding That Lost Potential
Watched a very good movie tonight, maybe the 6th or 7th time I've watched this particular movie, A cult classic dealing with lost potential and following your heart and soul and moving beyond the inner demons we all have and fight with on a daily basis. While watching this movie tonight, or even move back before the movie starts I searched through the Netflix catalog and came upon this gem and said to Terria, it's the perfect night for this movie, she agreed and we put on the movie and watched intently, or at least I did until my Terria fell asleep and left me to my own mindful ponderance with the movie in front of me, I realize that Ponderance is not a word and use it or my own reasons because it sounds better to make it up sometimes. So there , I said it Ponderance" move on to he movie!
The movie invoked allot of emotions in me and made me feel at one with most of the characters in the movie. I was in fact each player n this movie at one time in my life and it brought back a scene from work today when I was the mentor to a younger co-worker in offering up an opinion and my so -called elderly wisdom, a scene of lost loves and fear of failures, fear of success and general fear of life itself. The parts of cocky insight and of witty banter made me smile and reminded me of my everyday when people laugh along with my sarcastic spewing and nonsense. There was also the friends and foes of the main character who all remind me of people know and people that I had been at a given point in my life, anything for a laugh I always say. The heartbreak and the true essence of real sadness and disappointment along with being scared to death of the truth made this so real to me and tonight and was a real blast from the past for me at least, if not most people who are honest with themselves!
I see the lack of drive and real lack of reaching full potential on so many fronts, this I have come to grips with a long time ago and am ok with it all. Yeah I have a decent grasp on things and an above level of intelligence but somehow always seemed to self sabotage my existence into less than possible, this through counseling and many sessions on a therapist couch have me feeling less than deserving and able to deal with the realities of keeping a complex mind very simple and less dramatic and carefree. My ultra realistic side of me does not allow me to stray too far from the truth, the failures and shortcomings are in my realm of understanding and I have grown to accept the fact that I am very flawed but still am a functioning fuck up so to speak. All good and in reference to the movie I see the lack of understanding for those of us who are different in some aspects of our life and though process, who can understand if we have yet to understand ourselves? It's no mystery but being alone on an island is where I can sometimes reside, emotionally, spiritually and physically can remove myself from the playing field only to return and be here again, but why go away in the first place ? Therapy is a construction site still unfinished and will continue to be so for a while yet, not mad or unhappy about the fact , just really wondering why it took me so long to realize allot of what see as common place today and where and why was I hiding it all under that mask of having it all together.Every day is a project for me I guess, So do know what Mr Hunting was feeling throughout the movie, afraid and scared of looking and finding the flaws and having to go in and fix them all, know all too well that this project would not be an overnighter. The movie " Good Will Hunting" with Matt Damon, Ben Afflec and Robin Williams, a classic and one that forever reminds me of who we all are, a mere shadow of who we are and can be!
The movie invoked allot of emotions in me and made me feel at one with most of the characters in the movie. I was in fact each player n this movie at one time in my life and it brought back a scene from work today when I was the mentor to a younger co-worker in offering up an opinion and my so -called elderly wisdom, a scene of lost loves and fear of failures, fear of success and general fear of life itself. The parts of cocky insight and of witty banter made me smile and reminded me of my everyday when people laugh along with my sarcastic spewing and nonsense. There was also the friends and foes of the main character who all remind me of people know and people that I had been at a given point in my life, anything for a laugh I always say. The heartbreak and the true essence of real sadness and disappointment along with being scared to death of the truth made this so real to me and tonight and was a real blast from the past for me at least, if not most people who are honest with themselves!
I see the lack of drive and real lack of reaching full potential on so many fronts, this I have come to grips with a long time ago and am ok with it all. Yeah I have a decent grasp on things and an above level of intelligence but somehow always seemed to self sabotage my existence into less than possible, this through counseling and many sessions on a therapist couch have me feeling less than deserving and able to deal with the realities of keeping a complex mind very simple and less dramatic and carefree. My ultra realistic side of me does not allow me to stray too far from the truth, the failures and shortcomings are in my realm of understanding and I have grown to accept the fact that I am very flawed but still am a functioning fuck up so to speak. All good and in reference to the movie I see the lack of understanding for those of us who are different in some aspects of our life and though process, who can understand if we have yet to understand ourselves? It's no mystery but being alone on an island is where I can sometimes reside, emotionally, spiritually and physically can remove myself from the playing field only to return and be here again, but why go away in the first place ? Therapy is a construction site still unfinished and will continue to be so for a while yet, not mad or unhappy about the fact , just really wondering why it took me so long to realize allot of what see as common place today and where and why was I hiding it all under that mask of having it all together.Every day is a project for me I guess, So do know what Mr Hunting was feeling throughout the movie, afraid and scared of looking and finding the flaws and having to go in and fix them all, know all too well that this project would not be an overnighter. The movie " Good Will Hunting" with Matt Damon, Ben Afflec and Robin Williams, a classic and one that forever reminds me of who we all are, a mere shadow of who we are and can be!
Sunday, December 4, 2011
So Bad - Detroit in Ruins
THE most intriguing ,yet disgusting thing I've seen in a long time. After visiting Detroit this Summer and truly having my eyes opened with it's total ruinous condition and lackluster care and concern for it's appearance. I have made it a high priority to re-visit this city and see the most run down parts of the city and see most everything on this video for myself. will also re visit the part of the city that housed the old Tiger Stadium which I did not see when we were there, visit the field still in tact minus the surrounding stadium which was torn down. This City of Detroit has captured my heart for some reason, to know that this was once a great city and it now a real true Ghetto that seems more like Beirut than a real American city. The sad yet intriguing part of it all is that I want to see it all again. A must watch video with so many others on youtube that totally show what this place has become. When you see shut down libraries that still have books on their shelves, or police station with mug shots and files, classrooms with material still in the classrooms, but the most strange to me is the assembly line of vintage 1980-90's vehicles still on the assembly line un finished and left partially assembled...Amazing
Thursday, December 1, 2011
Happy Birthday Terria Lynn Duran...Love You Sweet Woman O'mine
A slight touch up of this site again as I get tired of looking at the same boorish look after a few months time, even if /I have not been writing as much I have the same picture In my head that makes it very clear to me that it is time for some new clothes for this place.Always a fan of Orange or bright colors in general this should do for a few months. Any way looking forward to a great day tomorrow as it is Terria's Birthday tomorrow, December 2, 1964 my sweetie was born to this cruel world and given to me some 35 years after the fact and here we are , ready to celebrate another day of goodness together.
As I contemplated gifts for her nothing came to mind immediately even asked her what she wanted and her customary low key, Nothing, nothing at all! Well I almost fell into that trap but chose to fore go her wishes and get her a few cool things that I know she will like and use, and the color pink to boot so she should be happy with it. Either way i ca take the stuff back if She doesn't like it and try something else. Tomorrow she did ask for her usual Scallops dinner that i have prepared for her the past few years and tomorrow will be not unlike previous years, she will get her giant Scallops, i hope giant one's anyway, I will search in the morning for a good batch and also some Jumbo Shrimp and some Tuna and some really good Rice to make as a side dish, baking her a small cake and finish up with one more gift as well.
Lastly trying to get Terria to commit on either Breakfast before work or meeting her for lunch tomorrow, no word as of yet but should be a good one either way. Kind f hoping for a 6 am breakfast so that will free me up for the rest of the day to finish up my progress to make her day a great one from all of her loved ones, especially her loving husband. Just got word that breakfast won out and cafe 126 it is! So sounds like a fulfilling and early day for us all. Must finish up here and get ready for the morning. Great days for sure!
Oh, and just got word that April and Tim are taking us to the Cardinals Browns game in Arizona on the 18th for the Browns and Cards football game, Terria's favorite team and player Larry Fitzgerald and former Rio Mesa Grad Scott Fujita playing Linebacker for the Browns so it will be a good day for us all! Goodnight !
As I contemplated gifts for her nothing came to mind immediately even asked her what she wanted and her customary low key, Nothing, nothing at all! Well I almost fell into that trap but chose to fore go her wishes and get her a few cool things that I know she will like and use, and the color pink to boot so she should be happy with it. Either way i ca take the stuff back if She doesn't like it and try something else. Tomorrow she did ask for her usual Scallops dinner that i have prepared for her the past few years and tomorrow will be not unlike previous years, she will get her giant Scallops, i hope giant one's anyway, I will search in the morning for a good batch and also some Jumbo Shrimp and some Tuna and some really good Rice to make as a side dish, baking her a small cake and finish up with one more gift as well.
Lastly trying to get Terria to commit on either Breakfast before work or meeting her for lunch tomorrow, no word as of yet but should be a good one either way. Kind f hoping for a 6 am breakfast so that will free me up for the rest of the day to finish up my progress to make her day a great one from all of her loved ones, especially her loving husband. Just got word that breakfast won out and cafe 126 it is! So sounds like a fulfilling and early day for us all. Must finish up here and get ready for the morning. Great days for sure!
Oh, and just got word that April and Tim are taking us to the Cardinals Browns game in Arizona on the 18th for the Browns and Cards football game, Terria's favorite team and player Larry Fitzgerald and former Rio Mesa Grad Scott Fujita playing Linebacker for the Browns so it will be a good day for us all! Goodnight !
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)